very painful debate

    

ten of swords reversed + five of wands

In a problematic quarrel, take one step at a time.  You finally have a clear perspective of this disagreement, and you are at the end of a very painful debate.  The worst is over, but be sure you see your part in this fight.  Learn not only from your mistakes, but from mistakes your opponent made.  It's time to stop quibbling over details and to start coming up with solutions.